Middle school dating stories
I am not sure why this is the case but I have some ideas.
Dating can be quite confusing and distracting for young teens.
G., I recently read your article warning parents about the perils of young teens and dating. When I was pregnant I prayed to have a popular child who would be happy and be sought out by the opposite sex. Can you explain some more what you have against young teens dating?
She is very pretty and popular and all of the boys like her. I was a wallflower with acne and sat home while the other kids went out.
A Confused Mother Dear Mother, First, let me say that we have to be very careful about wishing for popularity for our kids.
The popular kids are not always the happiest kids nor are they always the nicest. Anyone who has ever been excluded knows that this has often been initiated by the popular kids. Nonetheless, kids who begin to date as young teens are more likely to have bad study habits, eventually develop substance use problems and are unfortunately more likely to drop out of school than teens who begin to date at later ages.
But later that week or by the end of next week, the "couple" will have "broken up" and be "dating" other people.
Perhaps it means something different in different middle school cultures. A boy did ask our daughter out in a more traditional sense. But I'd be just as concerned about letting her have a Facebook page. There's too much girl drama and meanness that happens on Facebook.
My wife has been friended by a number of our daughter's friends, so my wife and daughter read the Facebook posts together.
I have seen some very disappointing things on articles of my situation.
Such as middle school relation ships do not matter.
"Chilren" aged roughly 14-18 aare programmed that way.